How Self-Reflection Is an Essential Part of My Day

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It's no big secret that I like to think a lot. I think a lot about my life, my family, my friends, my career, and anything else that pops in my head. Take this, from someone who thinks a lot: self-reflection is damn important.

I don't necessarily have a list, but at the end of my day, I reflect on everything I can think of.

I take time to reflect on my day.

I evaluate how I spent my day. Did I use my time wisely? What do I need to do tomorrow? I also think about what I WANT to do tomorrow, because it's always important to take time for yourself.

I take time to reflect on my day at work.

If it's a weekday, I usually reflect on my day at work. I reflect on how productive I was that day. Was I as effective and efficient as I wanted to be? Did I make help everyone I work with develop as professionals? Are my actions advancing my career or not?

I take time to reflect on my relationships.

I think of my family, I think of my friends, and I think of how present I've been in their lives lately. I think about who I might've been ignoring and need to reconnect with soon. I think not just about the quantity of my friends and family, but also the quality of our relationships.

I think about everyone else too. Am I my best self to everyone I encounter, even cashiers at stores? Do I treat strangers with respect, or do I just ignore them? How I treat other people, even if they're not friends or family, reflects my character.

I take time to reflect on my thoughts and feelings.

It took me a while to realize this, but I do know now that my thoughts and my feelings influence my decisions and actions, and ultimately my life, so I put a lot of care into reflecting on them. Negative thoughts lead to negative attitudes and negative choices, and inevitably leads me to negative results/consequences. If I think that my job isn't worth my time, even if I don't say it, it's going to affect my actions, and it'll negatively affect my results. The good news is, I have the ability to choose my attitude and how I react to what I encounter throughout the day (and you do too). Being self-aware is key in choosing your attitude.

In order to grow, you need to reflect on your thoughts, your actions, your conversations, your plans, and your life goals. Self-awareness is important, and taking time to reflect on yourself helps get you (or keep you) there.

Roderick Conwi is a professional development coach and writes at NourishmentNotes.com about lifestyle development. He is also the proud parent of two silly boys. To get powerful insights that enhance your day, join his free newsletter.

Why Getting Out of Your Comfort Zone is Necessary for Growth

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"Out on the edge you see all kinds of things you can't see from the center. Big, undreamed-of things - the people on the edge see them first."
-Kurt Vonnegut

Having a routine is good to maintain a consistent lifestyle. Stability is good; many people I know would love to have some stability in their life. Consistency is good, but growth is better.

Growth improves your quality of life in many ways. You can improve in your physical strength or physical health. You can grow in the quality and quality of relationships with the people in your life. You can increase your income and/or your net worth. You can further your education and earn more degrees or learn more skills. There are so many different ways to grow.

The only real way to grow is to move yourself out of your comfort zone. It's pushing yourself to do what you're not normally used to. It's getting yourself to try something you've always wanted to do or never have done before. Sometimes that something new that you've never done before is something important that you've needed to do for a while (like going to the dentist or exercising regularly).

Growing isn't easy. Pushing yourself to be out of your comfort zone requires hard work. It requires you to trust that it'll be worth it in the long run. It requires you to struggle and face challenges that you've never encountered before. Growth requires effort, but it's worth it.

Roderick Conwi is a professional development coach and writes at NourishmentNotes.com about lifestyle development. He is also the proud parent of two silly boys. To get powerful insights that enhance your day, join his free newsletter.


Dear Boys, I'll Teach You How To Be Men


Dear Boys,

As your dad, I promise that I'll do the best that I can to help you become men of honor. It's something that I've been trying to do, even before you were born, but especially now.

When you both were born, I knew that you were blessed with so much potential. I knew that you both were meant for great things in this world. The first time I held you both, my heart screamed, "Look out world!"

There are so many lessons for you to learn. I'm still learning, but I promise I'll teach you the best of what I've learned to teach you to truly be men.

I want you to know that being a man doesn't mean that you have to be always tough, aggressive, and insensitive. That's just being stupid with pride.

It's perfectly okay for men to cry, especially about important things that matter (or even if you drop a bowling ball on your foot). It's okay to have feelings; that's what makes us human. Your feelings are genuine, and you should own them.

I want you to grow up being respectful and respected. I want you to show respect to others, even those who don't necessarily deserve it. I'll be happy knowing that you tried your best to be compassionate human beings. I want you to show people that they're important and that they're lives are significant, even if they don't think so. How you treat others shows your true character.

I want you to be respectful to women, with your words and actions. You will DEFINITELY understand what consent is. You will understand what sexism and rape culture is, and hopefully do your part in fighting them to help make our society a safer place for everyone.

You'll grow up being courageous. You won't be afraid to tackle any challenge that life throws at you. I will teach you to be brave in an uncertain world. I'll teach you to stand up for what you believe is right and fight for a more just world. I'll teach you that there is honor in sticking up for people who are being victimized, oppressed, or marginalized. You'll be a spark of light in this world.

Someday (if not, every day), you'll blow the world away with how amazing you turned out to be. You'll be examples of what men should be. You'll be role models that young boys aspire to be. I will guide you every step of the way.

Love,
Dad

Roderick Conwi is a professional development coach and writes at NourishmentNotes.com about lifestyle development. He is also the proud parent of two silly boys. To get powerful insights that enhance your day, join his free newsletter.
 

If You've Always Wanted To Write, Go Write!

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Every once in a while, people tell me that they've always wanted to write. Most don't want to do anything serious - just for fun. They want to write poetry, short stories, or even a novel. If that's you, I say go for it!

There isn't a perfect time. I'm going to tell you a BIG secret in the writing world: you don't have to wait for inspiration to write. If you do, you may have to wait forever. Write right now. You make it happen.

If you don't think you're good enough, who cares? Right now, it's just for you. It's an outlet for you to let out your thoughts, ideas, your feelings, and anything else you'd like to process. It's for you to unleash your inner-self. Let yourself go.

Your first draft isn't going to perfect. Most things never are. Writing, just like life, is a big work in progress. "Perfect" is almost impossible to attain; but being "finished" is. Done is better than perfect.

Go ahead, write a journal. Capture your inner-most thoughts on paper and reflect on how you've been. Think of it as a time capsule for your stream of consciousness.

Go ahead, write poetry. Capture the beauty of this world and pack them into words, lines, and stanzas. Make people wonder and exercise their imaginations.

If you must, go write a novel. Write your autobiography or any other story worth telling. Make it worth it for people to read it. Tell a story of how something came to be, or how good overcame evil, or how love won above all. Write a story that highlights life in a different light. Craft something wonderful with your words.

Write. Edit. Rewrite. Live. Write more. Live your life so that you have something amazing to write about.

Roderick Conwi is a professional development coach and writes at NourishmentNotes.com about lifestyle development. He is also the proud parent of two silly boys. To get powerful insights that enhance your day, join his free newsletter.