Why Hope is Absolutely Necessary

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"I hope, or I could not live."
- H. G. Wells

Life can be stressful. Life can be overwhelming. It can be just plain damn scary. The older you get, the easier it is for you to be jaded with this thing we call life.

Many times before, even I've felt hopeless. My mind wanted to think otherwise, but I felt this grief deep in my heart. I couldn't see past my current situation. Somehow, (just like you) I survived.

I undoubtedly believe that there is always hope. It's always there, for all of us, in every situation. It's easy to forget that it's there, but it is absolutely always around us. (Even right now.)

Hope is also inside all of us. It's embedded in our human nature. It's what drives us to look forward to the future. It's what keeps us going, especially when everything seems hopeless.

Hope is why we are here and why we keep going.

Roderick Conwi writes at NourishmentNotes.com about lifestyle development. To get powerful insights that enhance your day, join his free newsletter.    

The Heart of Life is Inherently Good

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“In spite of everything, I still believe people are really good at heart.”
-Anne Frank

Nowadays, it’s really easy to have a negative outlook on the world. With everything that you see in the media, it’s understandable to be pessimistic. All the ignorance, hate, and fear paints the picture of a deteriorating world. Well, I’m here to remind you that despite all that, life is inherently good.

It’s easy to say that life is good when things are going well. When it’s not, the typical reaction is to assume that the world is full of gloom and doom. But those are the times that it’s most important to be reminded that life is good. It’s just that someone (or some people) did something to make you forget that. Even those people are inherently good; they just got lost along the way.

If you’re going through something, hold on to hope. Have faith that this world and the people in it (especially you) are good at heart. I believe it with all my might and affirm it throughout my heart and soul. My mind knows it, and knows that sometimes it’ll forget it, and will occasionally need a reminder.

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On Mentoring

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As an educator, I’ve dedicated my life to helping people. I help people by giving them opportunities for the best education possible that in turn open up more possibilities and opportunities for everyone who has ever stepped foot in my classroom.  

There are many ways to help people and I’ve often pondered the best possible methods to do so, and it’s an ever-evolving journey.

Doing things for other people does help, but it’s temporary. In this route, the amount of help others get depends on the amount of help that you do. You can help someone in debt by simply giving them money, but after they spend it, they’ll still need money.

I can’t fix everyone, no matter how hard I try. it’s hard because I want to help everyone, but not everyone wants to be helped. I can give all the advice I have, but if a person is unwilling to accept it, then it’s pointless. They’re comfortable in their rut. If I get them out of their rut, it’s usually a temporary fix. Eventually, they find themselves back in. When people learn to rise and bring themselves out of their rut, they also learn the knowledge and skills to keep themselves out.

A great way to help someone in debt is not just giving them money, but also sharing with them the knowledge and practices of what it takes to get out of debt and stay out of debt.

One of my favorite methods of helping people is mentoring. Of all the things I’ve tried, it holds the most promise. I truly believe deep in my heart, at this moment in time, that this is the best way to help people.

Mentoring is giving yourself to mold and condition others to be like the best of who you are. You are giving people the benefit of your experience and the skills you’ve gained over the years. You’re sharing your life lessons (aka wisdom from your “mistakes”) for someone else’s benefit. Mentoring helps others help themselves.

Mentoring pushes personal development of both the mentor and the apprentice. The mentor is pushed to be the best self possible in order to be the best mentor possible. In turn, it gives the best mentorship experience to the apprentice.

Mentoring is also a long term strategy. It’s not a quick fix. It’s an ongoing relationship. The frequency of interaction may vary depending on what’s needed. It can be once a week, month, quarter, or a year. It’s all up to you and what you think is necessary.

As an educator, I mentor my students. As a parent, I mentor my kids. Anyone can be a mentor, especially you.

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How To Balance Being Un/Satisfied

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It’s really easy to want more. We live in a consumer-driven society that constantly tells you that you need to have more (and buy more) in order to be happy. Bigger is considered better and getting more means that we’re getting our money’s worth.

We are concerned with keeping up with the Joneses (or the Kardashians). We put pressure on ourselves to keep up with our peers. If we see them on fancy vacations on Facebook or Instagram, we can’t help but compare ourselves.

It’s not good to consistently compare our lives with other people’s lives and feel jealousy. Instead, we should be happy for other people’s success (and maybe even ask for advice if they’re succeeding in something that we want to be successful in too). We need to practice gratitude and be satisfied with what we have. It puts a positive spin on our energy.

There is value in being unsatisfied. It’s healthy to want more, but without being greedy. It’s good to want to be more successful. It’s perfectly fine to want to have a better life.

The key is balance. You have to balance both being satisfied and unsatisfied at the same time. It sounds ironic, but it’s possible. You should both feel satisfied with what you have and yet be unsatisfied to the point where you’re driven to achieve more. 

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When "Failure" Isn't Failure

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"Every strike brings me closer to the next home run."
- Babe Ruth

"Failure" is never truly failure. Each time you try and not succeed, it's a learning experience. It gives you the opportunity to try again, but now smarter, wiser  and with more experience. This is when you say to yourself, "I may have not succeeded this time, but I might next time." Knowing this is a key in maintaining a motivation mindset.

Unfortunately, many people see it as a "failure," see it as the end, and give up. I've done it before. We all have. Now you and I know differently.

If you try and don't succeed, look at the results as feedback. Use the feedback to adjust your strategy. Knowing that you're armed with more knowledge, wisdom, and experience is empowering.

If you do succeed, definitely also take that as feedback. Whatever you you're doing is working, so keep doing it. As time goes by, you should be doing more of what works and less of what doesn't. Your life will better because you will get better at life.

Roderick Conwi writes at NourishmentNotes.com about lifestyle development. To get powerful insights that enhance your day, join his free newsletter.    

Daringly Defining Courage

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Courage is often misunderstood. Courage isn’t the absence of fear, it’s the decision to move forward in face of it.

In today’s world, it takes courage to be yourself. In a world where you’re told what you should do and who you should be, authentically being you is a profound act of courage. Peer pressure will always be there, but as you grow, you’ll build a stronger sense of self that can withstand negative peer pressure. You can choose who you let influence you.

Doing the right thing is another profoundly courageous act. It’s usually easier to think about doing the right thing versus taking action to do it. Sometimes it takes a leap of faith and trusting your gut instinct that the actions you are taking are just. The bigger the leap of faith, the bigger your act of courage is.

If you’re surrounded by people who are mediocre, it takes courage to continuously push yourself to a level of excellence. It’s an act of bravery to ignore what other people are doing and what their level of satisfaction is and rise up to your own level of high expectations.

It’s really easy to be stuck in your comfort zone. It’s understandable because it’s comfortable. Despite that, trying something new and stepping out of your comfort zone is an act of courage. It takes you out of your daily routine and pushes you, not just out of your comfort zone, but into new possibilities.

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Bravely Be You

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"I took a deep breath and listened to the old brag of my heart; I am, I am, I am."
- Sylvia Plath, The Bell Jar

With the everyday hustle and bustle of life, it's really easy to become numb. What I mean is that the busyness of life can become so routine (or for some overwhelming) that you can forget to be fully present in the present moment. Being both physically and mentally aware of what's in front of you can be challenging. If this is you, then this is your reminder to wake up, set aside distractions, and focus on what's really important to you.

I know that it's really easy to be weighted down with other people's expectations of you. All throughout your life, you get messages telling you what you should do and who you should be. Growing up, you've been asked countless times, "What do you want to be when you grow up?" That type of questioning forces you to label yourself by an occupation and the lifestyle associated with it. Even though it's great to think ahead, what people miss the most is that it's perfectly okay to change your mind. People do it all the time. I've done it countless times in college. If a dream, goal, career, job, relationship, or current situation isn't working well for you, it's perfectly acceptable to change something about it. If you're unhappy at your job, you can change something about your job or get a different job.

Because of all that, one of the hardest ongoing challenges you face is being true to yourself. Listening to your conscience and heart isn't always easy. Sometimes mixed messages come out. Temptations, distractions, and old habits get in the way. When I need clarity, I usually need some time to myself to reflect on my current situation, process all of the information, and my feelings about it all to make the best possible choice moving forward. Whatever you have to do to gain clarity in your life, do it.

Be you. Be who you wan to be. You don't need anyone else's permission. Be the person who you've always dreamed to be. Be the person that you can be outrageously proud of. Do what's important to you. Do what fulfills your heart and satisfies your soul. If it also makes you happy, that's exponentially valuable. Have the life you want. You only get one and your time is preciously limited.

In a world of mixed messages, bravely be you.

Roderick Conwi writes at NourishmentNotes.com about lifestyle development. To get powerful insights that enhance your day, join his free newsletter.