How Self-Reflection Is an Essential Part of My Day

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It's no big secret that I like to think a lot. I think a lot about my life, my family, my friends, my career, and anything else that pops in my head. Take this, from someone who thinks a lot: self-reflection is damn important.

I don't necessarily have a list, but at the end of my day, I reflect on everything I can think of.

I take time to reflect on my day.

I evaluate how I spent my day. Did I use my time wisely? What do I need to do tomorrow? I also think about what I WANT to do tomorrow, because it's always important to take time for yourself.

I take time to reflect on my day at work.

If it's a weekday, I usually reflect on my day at work. I reflect on how productive I was that day. Was I as effective and efficient as I wanted to be? Did I make help everyone I work with develop as professionals? Are my actions advancing my career or not?

I take time to reflect on my relationships.

I think of my family, I think of my friends, and I think of how present I've been in their lives lately. I think about who I might've been ignoring and need to reconnect with soon. I think not just about the quantity of my friends and family, but also the quality of our relationships.

I think about everyone else too. Am I my best self to everyone I encounter, even cashiers at stores? Do I treat strangers with respect, or do I just ignore them? How I treat other people, even if they're not friends or family, reflects my character.

I take time to reflect on my thoughts and feelings.

It took me a while to realize this, but I do know now that my thoughts and my feelings influence my decisions and actions, and ultimately my life, so I put a lot of care into reflecting on them. Negative thoughts lead to negative attitudes and negative choices, and inevitably leads me to negative results/consequences. If I think that my job isn't worth my time, even if I don't say it, it's going to affect my actions, and it'll negatively affect my results. The good news is, I have the ability to choose my attitude and how I react to what I encounter throughout the day (and you do too). Being self-aware is key in choosing your attitude.

In order to grow, you need to reflect on your thoughts, your actions, your conversations, your plans, and your life goals. Self-awareness is important, and taking time to reflect on yourself helps get you (or keep you) there.

Roderick Conwi is a professional development coach and writes at NourishmentNotes.com about lifestyle development. He is also the proud parent of two silly boys. To get powerful insights that enhance your day, join his free newsletter.

Why Getting Out of Your Comfort Zone is Necessary for Growth

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"Out on the edge you see all kinds of things you can't see from the center. Big, undreamed-of things - the people on the edge see them first."
-Kurt Vonnegut

Having a routine is good to maintain a consistent lifestyle. Stability is good; many people I know would love to have some stability in their life. Consistency is good, but growth is better.

Growth improves your quality of life in many ways. You can improve in your physical strength or physical health. You can grow in the quality and quality of relationships with the people in your life. You can increase your income and/or your net worth. You can further your education and earn more degrees or learn more skills. There are so many different ways to grow.

The only real way to grow is to move yourself out of your comfort zone. It's pushing yourself to do what you're not normally used to. It's getting yourself to try something you've always wanted to do or never have done before. Sometimes that something new that you've never done before is something important that you've needed to do for a while (like going to the dentist or exercising regularly).

Growing isn't easy. Pushing yourself to be out of your comfort zone requires hard work. It requires you to trust that it'll be worth it in the long run. It requires you to struggle and face challenges that you've never encountered before. Growth requires effort, but it's worth it.

Roderick Conwi is a professional development coach and writes at NourishmentNotes.com about lifestyle development. He is also the proud parent of two silly boys. To get powerful insights that enhance your day, join his free newsletter.


Dear Boys, I'll Teach You How To Be Men


Dear Boys,

As your dad, I promise that I'll do the best that I can to help you become men of honor. It's something that I've been trying to do, even before you were born, but especially now.

When you both were born, I knew that you were blessed with so much potential. I knew that you both were meant for great things in this world. The first time I held you both, my heart screamed, "Look out world!"

There are so many lessons for you to learn. I'm still learning, but I promise I'll teach you the best of what I've learned to teach you to truly be men.

I want you to know that being a man doesn't mean that you have to be always tough, aggressive, and insensitive. That's just being stupid with pride.

It's perfectly okay for men to cry, especially about important things that matter (or even if you drop a bowling ball on your foot). It's okay to have feelings; that's what makes us human. Your feelings are genuine, and you should own them.

I want you to grow up being respectful and respected. I want you to show respect to others, even those who don't necessarily deserve it. I'll be happy knowing that you tried your best to be compassionate human beings. I want you to show people that they're important and that they're lives are significant, even if they don't think so. How you treat others shows your true character.

I want you to be respectful to women, with your words and actions. You will DEFINITELY understand what consent is. You will understand what sexism and rape culture is, and hopefully do your part in fighting them to help make our society a safer place for everyone.

You'll grow up being courageous. You won't be afraid to tackle any challenge that life throws at you. I will teach you to be brave in an uncertain world. I'll teach you to stand up for what you believe is right and fight for a more just world. I'll teach you that there is honor in sticking up for people who are being victimized, oppressed, or marginalized. You'll be a spark of light in this world.

Someday (if not, every day), you'll blow the world away with how amazing you turned out to be. You'll be examples of what men should be. You'll be role models that young boys aspire to be. I will guide you every step of the way.

Love,
Dad

Roderick Conwi is a professional development coach and writes at NourishmentNotes.com about lifestyle development. He is also the proud parent of two silly boys. To get powerful insights that enhance your day, join his free newsletter.
 

If You've Always Wanted To Write, Go Write!

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Every once in a while, people tell me that they've always wanted to write. Most don't want to do anything serious - just for fun. They want to write poetry, short stories, or even a novel. If that's you, I say go for it!

There isn't a perfect time. I'm going to tell you a BIG secret in the writing world: you don't have to wait for inspiration to write. If you do, you may have to wait forever. Write right now. You make it happen.

If you don't think you're good enough, who cares? Right now, it's just for you. It's an outlet for you to let out your thoughts, ideas, your feelings, and anything else you'd like to process. It's for you to unleash your inner-self. Let yourself go.

Your first draft isn't going to perfect. Most things never are. Writing, just like life, is a big work in progress. "Perfect" is almost impossible to attain; but being "finished" is. Done is better than perfect.

Go ahead, write a journal. Capture your inner-most thoughts on paper and reflect on how you've been. Think of it as a time capsule for your stream of consciousness.

Go ahead, write poetry. Capture the beauty of this world and pack them into words, lines, and stanzas. Make people wonder and exercise their imaginations.

If you must, go write a novel. Write your autobiography or any other story worth telling. Make it worth it for people to read it. Tell a story of how something came to be, or how good overcame evil, or how love won above all. Write a story that highlights life in a different light. Craft something wonderful with your words.

Write. Edit. Rewrite. Live. Write more. Live your life so that you have something amazing to write about.

Roderick Conwi is a professional development coach and writes at NourishmentNotes.com about lifestyle development. He is also the proud parent of two silly boys. To get powerful insights that enhance your day, join his free newsletter.
 

Hope is an Essential Part of Life

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Listen, hope is something that you, me, and everyone else needs. It may sound cliche, but we all need it. We need it to get through the tough times. We need hope to get by. We need it to be inspired and motivated. Essentially, we need it to live.

Hope is that spark that keeps us going in the darkness. It's our lighthouse that keeps us from straying to the side. In our darkest times, hope is the thing that we need to hold most onto.

I've been lucky enough to say that I haven't had many difficult times, but I do have a few. It's been where I felt that my life was going downhill and everything looked bleak to me. My wife was my rock; she gave me hope. She told me that we'll be okay and that we'd make it through. I didn't see it at that time, but she was right. We made it through (so far).

That's a lesson that took me many years to learn. No matter what, there is always hope. It may sound cheesy, but it's true. If things get bad, there is always hope because things can always get better. And if you've hit rock bottom, there is still hope because there is nowhere else to go but up. As hard as it is to see sometimes, hope is always there; you just have to search/dig/pry for it.

Now, no matter what my family, friends, and I face, in the current social, political, economical, and environmental situation, we can't give up. We have to hope.

Roderick Conwi is a professional development coach and writes at NourishmentNotes.com about lifestyle development. He is also the proud parent of two silly boys. To get powerful insights that enhance your day, join his free newsletter.

Why We Need To Always Act with Love

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Love is, really, the only reason to do anything. It's a main motivator for everything that we do. We may do things because we care, it makes us happy, or just because we're good human beings, but all that comes from love.

We spend time with our families because we love them. We go to work because we love what we do (or we love eating and having a place to live). We play sports, video games, or any other type of games because we love it.

Every day, I do my best to be a good husband to my wife and be a good father to my kids, mainly because I love them. It may be obvious, but love keeps our family together. Love is the reason I work as hard as I do at work, so I can give my family the best lifestyle and as much opportunity as I can give them. Love is the reason why I play with them, even when I'm dead tired at the end of the day. My love for my family is why I dedicate so much of my time and effort for their benefit.

We should always be motivated by love. When we do things out of love, good things happen. When we do things out of fear or hate, bad things definitely do happen.

When we act out of fear, we fail to understand. We distance ourselves from other people. When we act out of hate, we fail to love. We fail at being compassionate, respectful, or sympathetic. We insult the humanity of others and our own. When we act out of hate or fear, we hurt ourselves.

We need to always act with love; it's what you, I, and the rest of the world needs.

Roderick Conwi is a professional development coach and writes at NourishmentNotes.com about lifestyle development. He is also the proud parent of two silly boys. To get powerful insights that enhance your day, join his free newsletter.

Teach Your Kids How To Count in Tagalog

My son counting in Tagalog.
 As a Filipino American parent, I'd like my kids (two boys, ages 2 and 5) to be able to learn more about their Filipino heritage. It was important to me growing up and I want to share that with my kids. One of my goals is to teach them Tagalog as they grow up.

I looked through bookstores, and I couldn't find many books that taught kids Tagalog, so I decided to create my own, and I'm pretty proud of it. (I put a lot of consideration into the design and illustrated all the pictures myself.)

Tagalog 1,2,3 is counting book designed for toddlers and preschoolers to teach them how to count to ten in both English and Tagalog. The each page has been carefully designed to help all kids learn language and math skills.

This is an e-book that is compatible with ALL devices. (It even comes with a printable version with no background to save ink.)

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Whether or not you come from a Filipino heritage, I hope that you this is a powerful tool for you and your children. My kids love reading it with me and reading it with me at bedtime, and it's just the one of the best feelings.

Roderick Conwi is a professional development coach and writes at NourishmentNotes.com about lifestyle development. He is also the proud parent of two silly boys. To get powerful insights that enhance your day, join his free newsletter.

Why Effort is More Important Than Talent

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Talent is a good thing. It's good to be good at something, whether it's natural talent or by developing your skills through practice. The thing is, natural talent only gets you so far; it may give you a little bit of a head start, but it's not enough. If you're going to make it in the long run, it's all about your effort.

Effort means that you put in the work. You need to put in the time and practice to sharpen your skills, which will be helpful in moving you closer to your goals.

Effort means that you're taking action, which is what life rewards. Putting in the effort will get you results, and putting in the right type of effort (doing the right things or making the right choices) will increase your chances of receiving positive results.

So, if you think that you aren't naturally talented, the good news is, it doesn't matter much, but you have to put in the effort to be successful.

Roderick Conwi is a professional development coach and writes at NourishmentNotes.com about lifestyle development. He is also the proud parent of two silly boys. To get powerful insights that enhance your day, join his free newsletter.

Worry Less and Focus on What Really Matters

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There is a quote in the movie Van Wilder that always stuck with me: "Worry is like a rocking chair, it gives you something to do, but gets you nowhere." Even though it's been years since the movie came out, this line still strongly resonates with me today.

It's natural to worry. It's part of human nature. Worrying is something that you can't completely avoid, no matter how hard you try. It's perfectly fine to worry if you're in a dangerous situation (like an earthquake or a hurricane) or if a loved one is going through some serious trauma.

It's fine to worry about these things, within reason. You shouldn't worry too much about things that happened a long time ago. You shouldn't worry much about things that aren't any of your business. You also shouldn't worry a lot about things that are out of your control.

But there are things that you CAN control. You can control how you spend your time, effort, and focus. Don't waste your time or mental energy on things that don't serve you. Don't waste your effort on things that aren't important to your or a priority in your life. Spend time on what directly impacts your life or the lives of the people you love. Focus on the things that move you forward.

If you reflect on how you've been spending your time, you'll be more satisfied and fulfilled knowing that you spent your life on things that matter.

Roderick Conwi is a professional development coach and writes at NourishmentNotes.com about lifestyle development. He is also the proud parent of two wild and silly boys. To get powerful insights that enhance your day, join his free newsletter.


Why Finding Balance Isn't Good Enough

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“Balance is not something you find, it’s something you create.”
- Jana Kingsford


Balance is a key to life. Too much or too little of something isn’t good for you. Take food for example. If you consistently have too much food, it’ll lead towards obesity and all the health problems that go with it. If you constantly have too little food, you’ll be deprived of essential nutrients that your body needs to function. You need to eat just enough to avoid starvation, but not too much to avoid overeating.


Balance applies in everything else in life. You want to balance your work and home responsibilities. You balance your time for your family, friends, and yourself. You balance your bank accounts so that you have enough to maintain your lifestyle. Balance is very important.

Finding balance is hard. It’s not something you can physically look for or buy. It is something that you must create for yourself. You must actively put in the effort to make wise decisions to keep the various factors in your life balanced. People may help you create this, but it’s ultimately up to you to create it. When you create balance, you lead a balanced lifestyle for yourself.


Roderick Conwi writes at NourishmentNotes.com about lifestyle development and is a proud parent of a five year old who loves Lion Guard and a two year old who loves anything with wheels. To get powerful insights that enhance your day, join his free newsletter
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Why It's Not Enough To Just Do Things Right

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Every once in a while, I hear people say that in order to be successful, you have to do things right. In anything that you do, make sure that you do it right. Doing it wrong (or mediocre) will cost you in the long run. It's true that you need to do things right to achieve success, but it's only part of the equation.

It's not enough to just do things right, it's also important to do the right things. If you do things that aren't moving you forward on the path to success, it's not going to help you be successful, even if you're doing it right or with excellence.

Let's say that your goal is to be a doctor, then the right things to do are: go to college, get good grades, and go to medical school. The wrong thing to do would be to is going to culinary school instead of college. You could be great at studying to be a chef and cook the tastiest meals, and while you could still eventually change careers and become a doctor, it doesn't directly help move you forward towards becoming a medical doctor.

Even if you do go to medical school (which is doing the right thing), you must also do well there in order to become a doctor. If you don't do things right (or well enough), then you aren't helping yourself reach your goal. You need to both do things right and do the right things to be successful, period.

Roderick Conwi writes at NourishmentNotes.com about lifestyle development and is a proud parent of a five year old who loves Lion Guard and a two year old who loves anything with wheels. To get powerful insights that enhance your day, join his free newsletter.

Life is Meant To Be Challenging, So Don't Give Up

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Life is a crazy and wonderful adventure. It's always going to be challenging, but the key is to get better at facing these challenges. That's how you grow. That's how you mature. That's how you become a better person.

If you're working towards your goals and dreams, keep going. If it's totally worth it to you, don't give in. Keep working towards it. If you slowly progress, slow progress is better than no progress. Even if you fall back a little, it's okay. It happens sometimes. It's not a failure; it's a learning experience and you're stronger for going through it.

When life gets tough, you get tougher. Life rewards people who persevere and don't give up.


Roderick Conwi writes at NourishmentNotes.com about lifestyle development and is a proud parent of a four year old who loves Lion Guard and a two year old who loves anything with wheels. To get powerful insights that enhance your day, join his free newsletter. 

There Are No Limits To Your Value

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If you play Pokemon Go, you may have heard of "IV," which stands for "Individual Value." It's nowhere mentioned in the game. There are n;umber rating each pokemon's Combat Power (CP), Health Power (HP), attack points, and weight and height. I've read many articles (not by Pokemon o Niantic) pointing out that these numbers are in no way any indication of a Pokemon's full potential capability, which is what IV is.

In order to find out a pokemon's IV, there are many 3rd party websites that calculate it. You have to enter stats about your pokemon individually and get their results, which may be accurate (there is no way to be 100% sure).

Unlike pokemon, you don't have an IV. There is no way to fully measure your true hidden potential. What you're capable of is immeasurable.

You may be able to measure your current skill level at something specific (like your bowling or batting average), your current income, or your position on the corporate ladder. Even if you're low on certain skills (like math), there are two pieces of good news: you're more skilled in other things and with the right practice, you can get better at almost anything. So if you "suck at math," you're probably better at analyzing literature or mapping out the cardiovascular system, and by practicing simplifying trinomials, you can get better at it. Your math skills (and all your other skills) can be measured at the level they're at now, but are impossible to limit.

Roderick Conwi writes at NourishmentNotes.com about lifestyle development and is a proud parent of a four year old who loves Lion Guard and a two year old who loves anything with wheels. To get powerful insights that enhance your day, join his free newsletter. 

You Can Only Grow If You Make Positive Changes

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In any stage in life, it’s easy to be stagnant. It’s easy to get into a work/life routine and keep it that way for a while. It’s Also easy to settle for what you already have, or what other people think you should have.

If you’re already working to build a better life for yourself, that’s great. Keep doing it. Hold onto your dreams and keep on going.

On the flip side, if you’re feeling bored with life, I hope that you want to make a change. The good news is, it’s never too late to make a change (even if you’re as old as dirt). You always have the opportunity to choose to take action that sparks a change in your life.

Keep in mind, not all change is good. Change can be a bad thing if it doesn’t improve your quality of life in the long run. There may be a time of temporary struggle, like feeling sore or out of your comfort zone when you start working out regularly instead of sitting on the couch and binge watching TV for hours when you get home. For the first few days and weeks, it’s going to feel really tough, you’ll feel like quitting, and maybe try to lie to yourself that going back to your old life isn’t too bad. If you keep up with it, it will become a habit, more importantly, a good habit that produces positive outcomes in your life.

That’s different than change that lowers your quality of life in the long run.

Change can be good if you make smart decisions to better yourself and put in the time and effort to commit to your goals. Change can be bad if you give up on something that can improve your life or do something that leads you down a downward spiral.

The key is knowing the difference between a good and a bad change. It’s a skill that you develop over time with life experience.

Roderick Conwi writes at NourishmentNotes.com about lifestyle development and is a proud parent of a four year old who loves Lion Guard and a two year old who loves anything with wheels. To get powerful insights that enhance your day, join his free newsletter.

Why You Need Goals To Achieve Your Dreams

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Do you have dreams? Duh, of course you do! During at least one point in your life, you envisioned something awesome. It could've been a big house, a dream vacation getaway, or a successful career. It also could be something like having a great relationship with your family or being healthy. It can be as crazy or as far-fetched as you dare to imagine.

A dream is the most irrational, improbably (but not impossible) goal that you imagine. I believe that your goals are at the purest during your childhood because that's when your expectations haven't been hindered by life's negativity. You might've wished to be a superhero, a princess, be able to fly, or invent some kind of cure for all diseases.

Goals are like dreams, but a little different. One isn't necessarily more important than the other. A goal is a dream with a plan. Goals have realistic expectations. Goals have deadlines, and even an organized timeline of deadlines. Goals have action steps to strategize what to do in order to meet each deadline. Action steps should have measurable progress to show how close you are to reaching your deadlines and your goals.

A BIG factor into achieving your goals and dreams is hope. Hope is what motivates you to move forward, especially when you want to give up. When faced with a challenge or temporary failure, hope helps you overcome them. Hope keeps your dreams alive. If you lose hope, then your dreams die.

May you live with hope each day as you move closer to your goal of living a life of your dreams.

Roderick Conwi writes at NourishmentNotes.com about lifestyle development and is a proud parent of a four year old who loves Lion Guard and a two year old who loves anything with wheels. To get powerful insights that enhance your day, join his free newsletter.

Why You Should Always Choose To Be Excellent

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Excellence is a choice. It's a choice that you can make every single day anytime that you do anything. Every thing that you do is an opportunity to be excellent.

You may not always be great, but you were born with potential greatness. You always have the capability to be an excellent person. You can be as excellent as you want to be with all aspects of your life: your family, friends, and career, you just have to choose to be excellent towards that and commit to it. If you're committed enough, what you do will be at an admirable level of excellence.


In anything and everything you do, choose to do it with excellence. Anything less is an insult to your potential.


Roderick Conwi writes at NourishmentNotes.com about lifestyle development and is a proud parent of a four year old who loves Lion Guard and a two year old who loves anything with wheels. To get powerful insights that enhance your day, join his free newsletter.

How To Deal With Your Own Negativity

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One thing that I have a hard time with is negativity. People who constantly complain, assume the worst, and just have a negative outlook on everything in life.


I understand that part of being human is feeling negative every once in a while. It happens to everyone, including me. I could be negative for a moment, hour, day, or even a few days. But despite all that, I choose to live my life every day as positively as possible.


I choose to not give into pessimism. I couldn’t live with myself if I always expected the worst out of people. I’d always think that my friends hate me deep down inside, that strangers on the street want to rob me, poor people are lay, and anyone who looks Middle Eastern are terrorists. By assuming the worst in people, I’d bring out the worst in myself. Simultaneously, if we assume the best in people, we bring out the best in ourselves.


When people are consistently negative, I know not to judge. They’ve somehow been victimized somewhere along the line. They may have had a negative experience with someone and associate that negativity with everyone else of that gender, race, religion, or social group. It’s tragic, yet understandable.


They may have been raised by negative people. Pessimism, like prejudice, is both taught and learned. To overcome negativity, it must be un-learned. It takes effort. It takes a conscious choice to be positive, loving, and happy. It takes self-awareness to catch yourself when you’re feeling negative, think negative thoughts about yourself or others, or say anything negative, pessimistic, or limiting.


When you feel yourself being judgmental, be understanding. When you catch yourself expecting the worse in someone, remind yourself that they also have a good side. When you think that the world is a horrible place to live in, take a moment to look around and see its beauty. If that isn’t enough, think of all the incredible things that have ever happened in your life. Even if you don’t have as much as others, remind yourself that it doesn’t matter; you still have had good things happen in your life. Take ownership of them. They happened in YOUR life, and that’s what truly matters.

Being positive can be hard, but it’s a lot harder to live a negative life.

Roderick Conwi writes at NourishmentNotes.com about lifestyle development and is a proud parent of a four year old who loves Lion Guard and a two year old who loves anything with wheels. To get powerful insights that enhance your day, join his free newsletter
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Why You Should Always Choose To Be Awesome

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If you’re going to read one thing today, read this: you are awesome.
Read it again if you have to, but this is my reminder to you that you are awesome.
I hope that you know that. It’s easy to forget sometimes, especially after a long/hard/stressful/(insert negative adjective here) day.
Even in the face of adversity, you’re awesome enough to overcome it. You have everything within you to succeed. It’s been there, you just need to bring it out.
You can be as good as anyone else at anything. If not right now, then later with practice. Practice makes you better.
There is absolutely no one else like you in this whole universe with your unique skills, experience, and personality, which makes you awesome.
People may underestimate you. People may downplay you or make you question your worth. It’s all because they don’t understand you. The truth is, no one besides can truly understand you. You’re the one who understands you the most, so that’s why it’s so imperative that you always remember how awesome you are.
Life is an adventure. Be bold, be brave, but always be awesome.

Roderick Conwi writes at NourishmentNotes.com about lifestyle development and is a proud parent of a four year old who loves Lion Guard and a two year old who loves anything with wheels. To get powerful insights that enhance your day, join his free newsletter.
 

One Way To Be Happy with the Life You Have

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I’m lucky. Right now, my kids are at the age where they don’t ask me for things every time we’re at any store. The only thing they really ask me is to go to Chuck E. Cheese once every few days. Other than that, they seem pretty happy with what they have.
When we’re at at any retail store, they want to go to the toy section. They check out the toys, even play with them for a little bit, but they don’t ask me to buy it for them. Thank goodness they don’t cry or throw a tantrum when they don’t get what they want, at least for now.
My kids aren’t inhuman; they do want things. They want to play all the time, especially if it’s bedtime. They want to play with the same toy at the same time (and that’s when my wife or I have to play referee). Sometimes they want to eat a certain food (blueberries or granola) that we don’t currently have at home. But overall, they’re satisfied with what they have.
It’s something I admire about childhood. I wonder if we all were like that when we were younger and at some point, we learned to be greedy and selfish to a certain extent as we got older.
I know too many adults who are bitter because they aren’t happy with their life. It’s a tragedy in so many ways. Maybe we need to somehow go back to our youthful innocence and just be happy with what’s right in front of us.

Roderick Conwi writes at NourishmentNotes.com about lifestyle development and is a proud parent of a four year old who loves Lion Guard and a two year old who loves anything with wheels. To get powerful insights that enhance your day, join his free newsletter.

You Can't Control Everything in Life, But Here's What You Can Do.

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No matter how hard you try, you can’t control EVERYTHING in life. You can’t control the past, you can’t control the weather, and you definitely can’t control other people’s thoughts. You can, however, control one thing: you.
You and only you can only control what you do. No one else has control over your life. You’re the only one in charge of it.
You have the power to control your own thoughts and your own actions. No matter what life gives you, you have the ability to choose how you respond to it. Do you react negatively or positively? Do you react with hope or fear? Be careful; how you respond affects how life responds back to you.
Negativity spawns more negativity. Being negative inevitably has life react negatively to you. Your life will be affected in negative ways if you go down that path. On the flip side, positivity also spreads the same way.
A positive attitude is contagious. A simple smile can go viral. Reacting to anything and everything life throws at us with a positive attitude is the only way to have a positive life.
You can’t control the weather, but you can control how you prepare for it. You can choose to dress appropriately. If you’re going somewhere, you can plan an appropriate route that avoids nasty traffic. If there is traffic, you can allot yourself enough time to get there on time.
You can’t control what happened in the past, but you can control what you do now in the present. If you play your cards right, you can use all your experiences in the past as learning lessons to make smarter decisions today.
You can’t control what other people think or act, but you certainly can influence them, like how parents influence their children. If you’re trying to help someone, don’t beat yourself up if the outcome doesn’t come out the way that you want it to be. If you’re trying to help someone quit an addiction, it’s not your fault if s/he doesn’t cut the habit. You can be an influence for good in their lives, but keep in mind that they themselves are ultimately in charge of their lives, just as you’re in charge of yours.
Even if you can’t control EVERYthing, there are SOMEthings that you can control: your thoughts, your attitude, and your actions.

Roderick Conwi writes at NourishmentNotes.com about lifestyle development and is a proud parent of a four year old who loves Lion Guard and a two year old who loves anything with wheels. To get powerful insights that enhance your day, join his free newsletter.

How and What You Think is Surprisingly More Important Than You May Think

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Have you ever heard of a “self-fulfilling prophecy”? In a nutshell, it’s what happens when you think something is going to happen, and by that thought being in your head, it consciously or subconsciously influences your actions to make it happen.
If you think you’re not smart, you’re mentally limiting yourself. By thinking that way, you’re avoiding tasks and/or opportunities that could lead to bigger opportunities. This type of thinking keeps you away from your goals and dreams.
On the flip side, if you think you’re smart, you’re putting yourself in a positive mentality. You’re not limiting yourself; you’re actually telling yourself that you can do things that require a certain level of intelligence. If you think you’re smart, you end up doing smart things, and end up having your lifestyle shift for the better.
That’s just not with being smart, it’s with everything you can literally think of. If you think you’re lazy, you’re going to act that way. If you envision yourself to be proactive, then you’re inevitably going to take more initiative.
In a way, that’s pretty cool. The idea that you can control your lifestyle by the way you think is pretty awesome.
Now that you know this, you should always think of yourself more positively. Be brave, be bold, and always be awesome.

Roderick Conwi writes at NourishmentNotes.com about lifestyle development and is a proud parent of a four year old who loves Lion Guard and a two year old who loves anything with wheels. To get powerful insights that enhance your day, join his free newsletter.