Why You're (Sometimes) Better Off Not Getting What You Want

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"Remember that not getting what you want is sometimes a wonderful stroke of luck."
- The Dalai Lama

"You can't get everything you ask for just because you say you want it."

That's what I told my 3 year old son the other night. He wanted to play video games. He proclaimed multiple times, "I want to play Lego Star Wars" and expected me to drop everything and get it all set up for him. At my response, he was surprised and confused at why I wouldn't let him. I explained to him that he already played video games once today, that too much video games isn't good for him, and the weather outside was nice, so he should play outside. He didn't get it. All he understood was that he wanted to play video games and I wouldn't let him.

As his dad, I'm doing the bet I can to raise him to be an outstanding and honorable human being. Sometimes I have to deny his little 3 year old impulses to teach him responsibility and discipline, even if he doesn't get it yet.

He may not get everything he wants now, but he'll be better off for it.

When I first started college, I really wanted to study computer programming and have a career creating awesome computer programs. It ultimately didn't go that way. I ended up struggling with it and hating everything to do with computers. I couldn't imagine myself behind a computer staring at computer code for most of the day/week/my career. (By the way, it's cool if that's your thing; everyone is different. It just wasn't for me.)

I struggled with that phase of my life back then, but in retrospect, I'm glad it turned out (or didn't turn out) that way. During that time, I got to rediscover myself. I found that I had a passion for social justice, serving society, and having a career in education would be the best fit for me to do that.

I didn't get what I initially wanted to do in life, but instead, I found something else more profoundly fulfilling.

I know that when you don't get what you want in life, it can be really discouraging, but sometimes (if not, most of the time) you're better off that way. Remember that.

Roderick Conwi writes at NourishmentNotes.com about lifestyle development. To get helpful insights that enhance your day, join his free newsletter.   

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