Why You're (Sometimes) Better Off Not Getting What You Want

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"Remember that not getting what you want is sometimes a wonderful stroke of luck."
- The Dalai Lama

"You can't get everything you ask for just because you say you want it."

That's what I told my 3 year old son the other night. He wanted to play video games. He proclaimed multiple times, "I want to play Lego Star Wars" and expected me to drop everything and get it all set up for him. At my response, he was surprised and confused at why I wouldn't let him. I explained to him that he already played video games once today, that too much video games isn't good for him, and the weather outside was nice, so he should play outside. He didn't get it. All he understood was that he wanted to play video games and I wouldn't let him.

As his dad, I'm doing the bet I can to raise him to be an outstanding and honorable human being. Sometimes I have to deny his little 3 year old impulses to teach him responsibility and discipline, even if he doesn't get it yet.

He may not get everything he wants now, but he'll be better off for it.

When I first started college, I really wanted to study computer programming and have a career creating awesome computer programs. It ultimately didn't go that way. I ended up struggling with it and hating everything to do with computers. I couldn't imagine myself behind a computer staring at computer code for most of the day/week/my career. (By the way, it's cool if that's your thing; everyone is different. It just wasn't for me.)

I struggled with that phase of my life back then, but in retrospect, I'm glad it turned out (or didn't turn out) that way. During that time, I got to rediscover myself. I found that I had a passion for social justice, serving society, and having a career in education would be the best fit for me to do that.

I didn't get what I initially wanted to do in life, but instead, I found something else more profoundly fulfilling.

I know that when you don't get what you want in life, it can be really discouraging, but sometimes (if not, most of the time) you're better off that way. Remember that.

Roderick Conwi writes at NourishmentNotes.com about lifestyle development. To get helpful insights that enhance your day, join his free newsletter.   

Why You Shouldn't Give In to Fear and Take Action Today

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"There is only one way to avoid criticism: do nothing, say nothing, and be nothing."

Life rewards action. Taking action is how you get things done. Putting in the effort gets you closer to your goals.

Not taking action leads to stagnation. Instead of being sharpened, your skills become dull. Motivation dwindles. Passion slowly vanishes. Without action, you can't live the life you've always dreamed of having.

I know that inaction usually stems from fear. Fear of failure or fear of change can be overwhelming and/or scary. Fear is a major thing that freezes people in place. It causes them to stop. Many people don't try out of fear of being criticized or judged. One thing that you need to know is that no matter what, the people who love you will still support you whether or not you succeed initially or at your next attempt (or every attempt after that). They are the people who are always there for you.

From my experience, action is the only way that I've been able to reach my goals. It helped me attain my education and advance my career. In college, I actively chose to spend extra time and effort in working on my projects and studying for my exams. In my career, I've taken many leaps and applied for many promotions (I eventually got one!). Taking action and initiative are also how I've built and maintained healthy relationships in my life with my friends and family. I've taken the initiative to reach out to people to connect (in any form of communication), hang out, or reconnect. Passively waiting only gets you so far.

Action almost always brings you closer to success. Even if you take action and it "fails," know that it was a lesson learned and you can move forward both smarter and wiser because of that experience. If what you do is successful, but not as successful as you'd like, then that's still progress and a mini-lesson-learned. Whether what you do is a success, a failure, or a mixture of both, it's all feedback that you'll get based on your specific actions.

Knowing all this, there is no reason to not take action today. The life you've always dreamed of awaits.

Roderick Conwi writes at NourishmentNotes.com about lifestyle development. To get helpful insights that enhance your day, join his free newsletter.   

Stressed? Use This To Clear Your Mind and Replenish Your Soul

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If you're like me, stress is a part of everyday life. Absolutely anything can be overwhelming and/or stressful.

Work. School. Family. Responsibilities come from all angles. Sometimes balancing it all is hard. No matter what, it's important to be calm and keep a level head. 

What helps me the most is writing. It helps me soothe my soul. In my exponentially-adventurous life, it helps keep me grounded. 

Especially when I feel overwhelmed, sometimes all I want is to have some private time and let myself relax and reflect. When I write out how I'm feeling, I let it all out on paper like a fighter sparring with a punching bag. For work or school, I usually write professionally. It's organized and polished. When I write for me, it's unapologetically messy. It's my stream of consciousness and my current state of mind. Spelling and grammar may not be perfect, but that's okay.

Putting words to paper is both soothing and empowering. It releases negative energy from you and spreads positive energy outward. No matter what walk of life you come from, writing has a lot of benefits for you.

22 Writing Prompts that Nourish the Soul is a printable e-book with 22 carefully crafted prompts to bring out the best in you. Unlike other similar products, in each page I invite you let your heart out. Write out all you want. Let your soul fly.

Since you get a digital copy, you'll have it forever. Since it's printable, you can reuse it over and over as much as you'd like.

Click here to grab your copy of 22 Writing Prompts that Nourish the Soul.

You Have Dreams. Here's How To Make Them Happen.

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Chances are that when you were a kid, you always thought about how your life would be when you grew up. How did you imagine your life to be?

Did you dream of being a doctor? A lawyer? Teacher? Perhaps maybe even a firefighter or police officer?

The question I want to ask you is "Are you living the life of your dreams?"

Chances are, it's a mix of yes and no. You may have accomplished so much, yet there are still goals to be attained and dreams to reach for.

Sometimes you don't know what you want, and that's okay. I've been 100% guilty of that. Sometimes you know what you want, but you just don't know how to get there or other times life distracts you with something else. It happens to us all. It's a part of life.

For you, I created The Daydreamer's Journal. It's a tool to help you dig deep and help you find out what you really want in life and create a clear and realistic goal. Then, by working backwards, you create a plan to reach your goal. By creating your plan, you also establish your support system. Following these steps has helped me achieve my current success and is still helping me achieve more. This tool is designed to help you create your own success.

The Daydreamer's Journal is a printable ebook that you can use on any computer or electronic device. I recommend printing it out and reusing it at different times for different goals. The beautiful part is that you only have to buy it once to keep using it for the rest of your life.

You deserve to live the life of your dreams. Get the Daydreamer's Journal and take action.